Failure is a matter of your expectations. You felt like a failure when you didn’t reach that goal you set out to accomplish. You fail when you keep doing a habit you wanted to break. But in all this failing your forgetting one vital law:
The most likely place for you to end up is exactly where you started.
Why is that? Because inertia requires a force to overcome. When you lack sufficient force you can’t overcome the inertia. Think of it like a massive boulder with a little push. That isn’t going anywhere.
Now that provides an interesting implication. When you continue to try to change a sufficiently large boulder with too small a push you will never get anywhere, no matter how determined you are. Determination doesn’t give you leverage. You have two options when you lack leverage:
1) Solve a smaller problem. This acts like chipping off portions of the bigger boulder and moving them individually.
2) Get the training you need to use a lever. This will allow you to multiply your small force and possibly move the boulder.
However, a combination of the two approaches will give you the most reliable recipe for change. That said, remember the most likely outcome is that things don’t change. When you “fail” it’s actually the most likely outcome. When you succeed, you have triumphed over nature itself. Celebrate dammit.