11 Lessons I’ve Learned About Successful Blogging

1) Blogging is simply practice in dispensing advice. 

2) You’re following is simply a reflection of how great your advice is.

Angry? Ask, “what else might be going on?”

When you’re angry with someone, it’s because of an assumption.

You assume they mean you ill will.  You assume they don’t love you.  You assume it’s even about you.

If they’re late (again), what else might be going on?

They might have stopped to help someone.  They might be stuck in traffic.  They might have been doing something for you.

Even if they’re not, assuming the best of someone simply creates better interactions. Try it the next time you’re angry.

Openness Finds Happiness

Make it a habit of saying yes to those maybe adventures.  The more open you are to new experiences, the more interesting you’re life will be and the happier you’ll become.  

In order to love you have to stop hating

Do you always think of what you didn’t accomplish or what you could have done better?  What if you enjoyed and celebrated all your accomplishments no matter how small?

Self criticism poisons all attempts to love yourself.  One of the greatest barriers to loving yourself is to simply stop hating on yourself.

How have you loved yourself today?

Loving yourself is an active endeavor.  You can’t just magically love yourself, you have to do something about it.  You have to show it.

Ask yourself, “how would I love someone else?”

Would you set time aside for them?

Would you buy them special gifts?

Would you write them notes?

Would you tell them how much you appreciate them?

Would you tell them, “I love you” ?

Then do it.  For you.  Love yourself like you deserve.

Growth Requires Change

You’ll never learn how to do something new by doing exactly what you’ve been doing.

Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

Why is this happening?  What can I do?  What if they hate me?  What if I’m not good enough?  Why me? Why now?

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How can I make this happen?  Who can I find to help me?  Why is this a must?  What will I wish I had done?  How can I make this fun?

Pay attention to your questions.  Your questions determine your answers.

Mental Reps Require Mental Rests

So often we setup our plans for massive failure because we fail to use our willpower like a muscle.  When starting out, we think we can go to the mental gym and lift 200 pounds day one.  We can do some reps sure, but then we need some rest to recover and go back at it.

So in your plan, include binge days.  A day where nothing is required.  Wake up late.  Eat whatever you want.  Do whatever you want.  Binge!  On purpose.  Then do 2 days of reps, then binge! 3 days, binge!  I think you get the idea.  Measure your reps and rests in days instead of lifts. 

Your Worth is Intrinsic

You’re badass as is.

Monetary achievement doesn’t determine your worth.

Physical attractiveness doesn’t determine your worth.

You don’t even determine your worth.

Your worth already exists.  It’s part of you, like an arm.  You just need to realize it.

Without Risk, Passion Can’t Exist

Why were you so passionate during that one night stand, or in those first few years of the relationship?  Being vulnerable is so risky.  Each of you took constant risks, hoping the other person would understand and love you anyways.

But now you know they’ll love you regardless of what you say or do.  But the passion isn’t there.

Only with risks can you reap the rewards of passion.  You have to push outside the comfort zone of the relationship.  Stretch.

You might argue that you risk losing him or her.  Really, you risk losing them to boredom.